100 Questions to Ask Your Partner
The whole list. Not a list of twelve calling itself a hundred.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 20–60 min
- Cost
- Free · no signup
- Long distance
- Works long distance
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The whole list. Not a list of twelve calling itself a hundred.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 20–60 min
- Intensity
- Sweet
Free · No signup · Nothing you answer is saved
How do you play 100 Questions to Ask Your Partner?
100 Questions to Ask Your Partner is a full 120-question deck ordered from easy to hard, with no repeated questions. The first twenty need no shared history; the last twenty assume trust. The intended pace is ten a week over twelve weeks, because each honest answer makes the next one easier to give.
How to play
- Do not do this in one sitting. Ten a week is the intended pace.
- Go in order. The ordering from easy to hard is doing real work.
- Both of you answer every question.
- Let the pause after an answer sit. Do not fill it.
- Stop when it stops being easy and pick it up next time.
Why couples love this game
The length is the feature. Escalating self-disclosure works because each honest answer makes the next one cheaper — by question eighty you are answering things you would have deflected at question eight, and you got there without ever being asked to be brave.
Most "100 questions" lists contain about thirty, repeat themselves, and pad the rest. This one has a hundred and twenty, and no two of them are the same question wearing a different hat.
They run roughly in order of difficulty. The first twenty are easy enough to do in the car; the last twenty assume you trust each other. That ordering is deliberate — an honest answer to a late question is much easier once you have given eighty smaller ones.
Nobody should do this in one sitting. Ten a week for twelve weeks is the intended pace, and couples who take it slowly get considerably more out of it than couples who treat it as a challenge.
Example questions
- What was the best part of your day?
- What is your go-to order anywhere?
- What did you want to be when you were ten?
- What is your comfort film?
- What is a small thing that always improves your mood?
- What is the last thing you saved on your phone?
The full game has 120 of these, shuffled every time you play.
Who this game is best for
- Couples who want a project rather than an evening
- Long-distance couples doing ten a week on a call
- Anyone who has worked through the shorter decks
- A slow winter
Tips to make it better
- Ten a week for twelve weeks. Rushing it wastes the ordering.
- Do not skip ahead to the last twenty. They only work because of the first hundred.
- Keep a note of the answers that surprised you.
- Answer second sometimes so your partner is not always responding to you.
Frequently asked questions
Are there really 100 questions?
There are 120, and no two are the same question rephrased. Most lists with this title contain about thirty and pad the rest, which is why the ordering here matters more than the count.
Should we do all 100 in one night?
No. Ten a week for twelve weeks is the intended pace. Doing them all at once turns a conversation into a checklist and wastes the escalation the ordering is built on.
Can we skip to the deep ones?
You can, and they will not work as well. The last twenty get honest answers because eighty smaller ones came first.