Questions for Couples
Every deck of questions on the site, sorted by how far you want to go.
Roughly half the games here are question decks, which makes "what should we ask each other?" the thing this site is actually best at. This page is the way into all of them.
The decks are grouped below by how far in they take you, because that is the choice that matters. A first date and an eighth anniversary do not want the same question, and opening with the wrong one is how a good idea turns into a long silence.
Every deck shuffles, so a second run is a different evening. Every card has a Skip, and either person can use it without explaining why.
What are questions for couples?
Questions for couples are prompts two people ask each other to move past small talk. BaeGames groups them into shuffled decks by intent: icebreakers for a first date, playful ones for a slow evening, and serious ones about fears, family and the future. Every deck is free, needs no account, and lets either person skip a card.
Start with these
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36 Questions to Fall in Love
The original 36 questions in three escalating sets, finishing with four minutes of eye contact.
45–90 minDeepWorks long distance - Sweet
Deep Questions for Couples
Slow, honest questions with no right answers. The pauses are the point.
25–45 minDeepWorks long distance - Sweet
100 Questions to Ask Your Partner
Actually 120 questions, ordered from easy to hard. Work through it over weeks, not one night.
20–60 minConversationWorks long distance - Sweet
21 Questions
The classic 21 questions, couples edition. Short enough to finish, long enough to matter.
20–40 minConversationWorks long distance - Sweet
Date Night Questions
Questions good enough to keep a whole dinner going. No phones required.
20–40 minDate NightWorks long distance - Sweet
Funny Questions for Couples
Questions with no redeeming value whatsoever. Absurd hypotheticals and stupid confessions.
10–25 minFunnyWorks long distance - Sweet
First Date Questions
Questions that skip the CV round and find out whether you actually like each other.
20–60 minNew CouplesWorks long distance - Sweet
Questions That Will Make You Cry
Questions engineered to land. Loss, time, mortality, and the things you have not said.
25–50 minDeepWorks long distance
Questions for a first or second date
Written to get past "so what do you do" without asking anything you would not ask a stranger. These assume no shared history.
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First Date Questions
Questions that skip the CV round and find out whether you actually like each other.
20–60 minNew CouplesWorks long distance - Sweet
Ice Breaker Questions
Easy openers that get a conversation moving. No history assumed, nothing to confess.
5–20 minConversationWorks long distance - Sweet
Second Date Questions
One level past the first date — how they argue, what they need, what they are actually like.
25–50 minNew CouplesWorks long distance - Sweet
Speed Dating Questions
Timed rounds with one question each. The clock is what makes the answers honest.
15–30 minConversationWorks long distance
Questions when you want to laugh
Low stakes, fast turns, nothing anyone has to think about for a minute before answering.
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Funny Questions for Couples
Questions with no redeeming value whatsoever. Absurd hypotheticals and stupid confessions.
10–25 minFunnyWorks long distance - Sweet
Hypothetical Questions
Thought experiments about money, time, memory and morality. No right answers anywhere.
20–45 minConversationWorks long distance - Sweet
Rapid Fire Questions
Sixty seconds of questions, answered instantly. Speed is the whole mechanic.
5–15 minFunnyWorks long distance - Sweet
Would You Rather
Impossible choices that somehow turn into a forty-minute argument about your relationship.
10–25 minFunnyWorks long distance
Questions that go somewhere real
The decks that change the conversation rather than filling it. Worth an evening you have actually set aside.
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36 Questions to Fall in Love
The original 36 questions in three escalating sets, finishing with four minutes of eye contact.
45–90 minDeepWorks long distance - Sweet
Vulnerability Questions
Deliberately exposing questions for couples who already trust each other. Go slowly.
30–60 minDeepWorks long distance - Sweet
Fears and Dreams
What each of you is afraid of and hoping for — asked properly, not rhetorically.
25–50 minDeepWorks long distance - Sweet
Questions That Will Make You Cry
Questions engineered to land. Loss, time, mortality, and the things you have not said.
25–50 minDeepWorks long distance
Questions to ask your partner specifically
Same idea, phrased for who you are asking. Useful when you want the questions to sound like they were written for the two of you.
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Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend
Questions that get past "I'm fine" — about pressure, friendship, and what he never says out loud.
20–40 minConversationWorks long distance - Sweet
Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Questions that show you have been paying attention — about what she notices, carries, and wants said back.
20–40 minConversationWorks long distance - Sweet
Questions to Ask Your Husband
Questions for years in — what changed, what he gave up, and what he has stopped mentioning.
25–45 minMarriedWorks long distance - Sweet
Questions to Ask Your Wife
Questions for years in — what she carries, what she set aside, and who she is outside all of it.
25–45 minMarriedWorks long distance
Questions for a long relationship
For couples who have already covered the obvious ground and need the deck to find something they have genuinely not discussed.
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Married Couples Questions
For couples years in, who need new questions rather than new rules.
25–45 minMarriedWorks long distance - Sweet
Love Map Questions
Based on the Gottman love map idea — how well you know your partner's inner world, not their facts.
20–40 minGet to KnowWorks long distance - Sweet
Relationship Check-In
A structured monthly check-in. Keeps you on one topic at a time and ends on something good.
25–45 minDeepWorks long distance - Sweet
Questions Before Moving In Together
The domestic details couples never discuss until they are living in them. Money, mess, space, guests.
25–45 minDeepWorks long distance
Frequently asked questions
What are good questions to ask your partner?
Good ones are specific and cannot be answered with a single word. "What is the last thing you changed your mind about?" gets somewhere; "how was your day?" does not. Every deck here is written to that rule.
How many questions should we do in one sitting?
Ten to fifteen is a normal evening. The 36 Questions to Fall in Love is the exception — it is designed to be done in one run of about ninety minutes, and splitting it across nights loses most of the effect.
What if one of us does not want to answer something?
Skip it. Every card has a Skip control and neither person owes an explanation for using it. A deck where nothing can be passed on stops being a game very quickly.
Can we do these over text or a call?
Yes. Question decks need nothing but someone reading the card out, so all of them work over a video call, a phone call, or by typing the question and waiting.