Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
Ask better than "how was your day?"
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 20–40 min
- Cost
- Free · no signup
- Long distance
- Works long distance
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Ask better than "how was your day?"
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 20–40 min
- Intensity
- Sweet
Free · No signup · Nothing you answer is saved
How do you play Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend?
Good questions to ask your girlfriend are specific and show attention — "What is something you do for us that you think goes unnoticed?" or "What do you want to hear from me more often?" Ask one at a time, listen to the full answer without moving to solve it, and answer the same question yourself.
How to play
- One question at a time. This is a conversation, not a list.
- Listen to the whole answer before responding. Do not start solving.
- Ask one follow-up. "Say more about that" is the best one.
- Answer them yourself too.
- Six is a good evening. The deck will still be here next week.
Why couples love this game
Half of these are questions she has an answer ready for and has never been asked. The other half are ones she has not thought about, which is where it gets interesting. Either way the effect is the same: being asked something specific is itself the message.
The complaint is almost never that he does not care. It is that he does not ask, and when he does ask it is the same question, and the answer to that question has never once been interesting.
This deck fixes the asking. Every question is specific, none of them are answerable with "fine", and several of them are things she has been waiting to be asked for a while.
They lean toward what she notices that goes unremarked, what she carries that nobody sees, and what she would like said back to her.
Example questions
- What is something you do for us that you think goes unnoticed?
- What is the last thing I did that made you feel properly looked after?
- What do you want to hear from me more often?
- What is something you have been carrying this month?
- When do you feel most secure with me?
- What is a compliment you get that you do not believe?
The full game has 40 of these, shuffled every time you play.
Who this game is best for
- Anyone whose evenings have flattened into logistics
- A quiet night with no plans
- Long-distance calls
- Couples who want depth without heaviness
Tips to make it better
- Do not solve it. Most of these want to be heard, not fixed.
- Answer them back. A one-way session stops being a conversation.
- If an answer surprises you, follow it and abandon the deck.
- Do not save these for when something is wrong. They work best when nothing is.
Frequently asked questions
What are good questions to ask your girlfriend?
Specific ones about things she is unlikely to have been asked. "What is something you gave up that you do not talk about?" gets further than any version of "how are you?" ever will.
What if she gives short answers?
Usually it means the question was too broad or you responded too quickly last time. Ask something narrower and then leave a longer silence than feels comfortable.
Should I answer them too?
Yes. Reciprocity is what stops it feeling like an interview, and your answers are the reason she will want to do it again.