Questions for New Parents
Ten minutes about you two, not the baby.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 10–25 min
- Cost
- Free · no signup
- Long distance
- Works long distance
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Ten minutes about you two, not the baby.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 10–25 min
- Intensity
- Sweet
Free · No signup · Nothing you answer is saved
How do you play Questions for New Parents?
Questions for new parents are short prompts about the relationship rather than the child — what each partner needs, what is hardest, what has helped. Two or three questions once a week is the intended dose, because in the first year the relationship is rarely broken so much as simply undiscussed.
How to play
- Pick two or three. That is a whole session at this stage.
- Do it when you are both sitting down, not while one of you is doing something.
- Do not problem-solve unless the answer asks for it.
- Nothing about the baby. That is the rule that makes it work.
- Once a week is plenty.
Why couples love this game
It protects the last ten minutes. Couples in the first year rarely have a problem they cannot solve — they have a relationship nobody has asked about in four months. Two questions a week is a low enough bar to actually happen, and it is enough.
In the first year, every available conversation goes to feeds, sleep, and who is doing what next. The relationship does not break; it just stops being discussed, and the two of you become very efficient co-workers.
This deck is deliberately short and light. The questions are answerable in a sentence, none of them require energy neither of you has, and none are about the baby.
Ten minutes, once a week, is the intended dose. That is genuinely enough to keep something going through the hardest year most couples have.
Example questions
- What is one good thing about today that had nothing to do with the baby?
- What do you need this week that you have not asked for?
- When did you last have an hour that was actually yours?
- What is the hardest part right now — say the real one.
- What have I done recently that helped?
- What am I missing that you wish I saw?
The full game has 20 of these, shuffled every time you play.
Who this game is best for
- The first year with a baby
- Couples running on very little sleep
- Anyone who feels like flatmates at the moment
- Second-time parents, who often have it harder
Tips to make it better
- Two or three questions. Do not be ambitious — ambition is why this never happens.
- The "what am I missing" question is the most valuable. Ask it monthly.
- Resist fixing. Most answers here want acknowledgement, not a plan.
- If you only ever do one, make it the last card.
Frequently asked questions
How do you keep a relationship going after a baby?
Regular short check-ins beat occasional long ones. Ten minutes a week where you ask each other something that is not logistics does more than a date night you keep failing to book.
Why nothing about the baby?
Because that conversation is already happening constantly. The one that has stopped is the one about the two of you, and it will not restart unless something protects the space for it.
We are too tired for this.
Then do one question. The deck is designed so a single card is a complete session — the bar is deliberately on the floor.