This or That

How to play

1. 1Read both options.
2. 2Answer immediately. First instinct only.
3. 3Tap what you each chose and move straight on.
4. 4No explaining, no negotiating, no "it depends".
5. 5The match score at the end shows how often you lined up.

Why couples love this game

It moves. Most couple games ask you to be thoughtful, which is lovely but tiring — this one asks you to be fast, and speed produces honesty as a side effect. It is also the easiest game to suggest, because nobody has ever needed the rules explained.

This or That is Would You Rather with the deliberation removed. Two options, instant answer, next card. No defending your choice, no follow-up questions, no overthinking.

The speed is the mechanic. When you have half a second to answer, you give the real answer rather than the considered one — which is why couples who have known each other for years still get surprised by a few.

It is the best warm-up game on the site. Five minutes of this and the heavier games land much better.

Example choices

• Big night out — or Big night in?
• Beach holiday — or City break?
• Morning person — or Night owl?
• Text me — or Call me?
• Sweet — or Savoury?
• Cinema — or Sofa?

The full game has 40 of these, shuffled every time you play.

Who this game is best for

• —Warming up before something heavier
• —New couples on a second or third date
• —Five minutes while dinner cooks
• —Anyone who finds long questions exhausting

Tips to make it better

• ✦If you find yourself thinking, you have already lost. Answer wrong rather than slow.
• ✦Do not discuss until the deck is finished. Then go back to the three that surprised you.
• ✦Great over text — send both options, get one word back.
• ✦Pair it with Would You Rather when you want the same mechanic but with actual arguing.

Frequently asked questions