New Relationship Questions
Past small talk, short of intense.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 20–35 min
- Cost
- Free · no signup
- Long distance
- Works long distance
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Past small talk, short of intense.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 20–35 min
- Intensity
- Sweet
Free · No signup · Nothing you answer is saved
How do you play New Relationship Questions?
New Relationship Questions is a deck for couples in their first few months, with prompts real enough to get past small talk but that do not assume a shared history or future — for example, "How were you raised to handle disagreements?" Six to ten cards makes a good session.
How to play
- Both answer every card. Whoever drew it goes second.
- Follow-ups are welcome — this is a conversation, not a form.
- Skip anything that feels early. There is no penalty.
- Six to ten cards is a good first session.
- Come back to the deck on a later date rather than doing it all at once.
Why couples love this game
It gets you three months of information in one evening, without any of it feeling like an interview. The questions are calibrated so that honest answers are easy to give — nothing here requires a confession, but everything here has a real answer.
The first few months have a narrow window. Ask nothing real and you stay strangers who fancy each other. Ask about baby names and you will not get a fourth date.
Every question here sits in the middle. They are genuine — about how you were raised, what you are like in an argument, what you are looking for — without assuming a shared future, a shared history, or a level of commitment nobody has confirmed yet.
It is the best deck on the site for date three through month six.
Example questions
- What is something you are like that takes people a while to notice?
- How were you raised to handle disagreements?
- What does a good week look like for you?
- What is something you are proud of that does not come up naturally?
- What do your closest friends have in common?
- What is a dealbreaker you have learned the hard way?
The full game has 22 of these, shuffled every time you play.
Who this game is best for
- Date three through month six
- Anyone tired of the same first-date questions
- Couples who met online and are catching up on context
- Long-distance new relationships
Tips to make it better
- Do not do all 22 on one date. Six is plenty and leaves somewhere to go.
- Answer second sometimes so your partner is not always responding to you.
- The last card is the best one. Save it.
- If you have been together over a year, Deep Questions is the better deck.
Frequently asked questions
What questions should you ask when you just started dating?
Ones about how someone operates rather than what they have done. How they handle disagreements, what they need when stressed, and how much they need to be alone will tell you more than a list of their exes.
How soon is too soon for questions like these?
Date three is about right. Earlier than that and it can read as intense; much later and you have probably covered most of it anyway.
What if a question feels too personal?
Skip it. Nothing here is compulsory, and a skipped card early on is much better than an answer neither of you was ready for.