Intimacy Scale
Rate it one to ten. No discussion until the end.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 15–25 min
- Cost
- Free · no signup
- Long distance
- Works long distance
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Rate it one to ten. No discussion until the end.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 15–25 min
- Intensity
- Spicy
Free · No signup · Nothing you answer is saved
How do you play Intimacy Scale?
The Intimacy Scale has both partners privately rate the same thirty-six ideas from one to ten, then reveal together and look for items both scored highly. Scoring privately means neither partner has to raise anything first, and a score indicates interest rather than a commitment.
How to play
- Score every item one to ten, independently. Do not talk during.
- Do not look at each other's screens.
- Reveal everything at the end.
- Look for items you both scored seven or above.
- A high score is interest, not a commitment. Talk before assuming.
Why couples love this game
Because a number is not a request. The hardest part of this conversation is being the first person to name something, and scoring privately removes that entirely — by the time you compare, you have both already answered, and nobody went first.
A list of things couples do, each rated one to ten for how interested you are. You score independently, reveal at the end, and look at the overlap.
This is the least awkward way to have this conversation, because a number is not a request. Scoring something a seven commits you to nothing, and it means neither of you has to be the one who says a thing out loud first.
The genuinely useful output is the list of things you both scored highly and had never mentioned. Most couples find at least two.
Example things you rate
- Sex that is slow and teasing for a long time first
- Sex that is urgent — clothes half off, no patience
- You going down on me, unhurried
- Me going down on you, unhurried
- You on top
- Me taking you from behind
The full game has 36 of these, shuffled every time you play.
Who this game is best for
- Established couples who trust each other
- Anyone who finds this conversation difficult to start
- Long-distance couples — nothing here is physical
- A private evening with time to talk afterwards
Tips to make it better
- Score honestly. Scoring what you think they want to see wastes the whole exercise.
- No reacting during the scoring. Wait for the reveal.
- A seven is interest, not a plan. Ask before assuming anything.
- A one is a complete answer and does not require a justification.
- The conversation afterwards is the actual game. Leave time for it.
Frequently asked questions
Why rate instead of just discussing it?
Because the hard part is going first. Private scoring means that by the time you compare, you have both already answered and nobody had to be the one who raised it.
Is this private?
Yes. No accounts, and nothing about your play leaves your browser or is stored on a server.
What does a high score commit me to?
Nothing. A seven means interest, not agreement. Have the conversation before assuming anything, and a one needs no explanation.