Forgiveness Questions
The things you let go of, and the things you did not.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 25–50 min
- Cost
- Free · no signup
- Long distance
- Works long distance
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The things you let go of, and the things you did not.
- Players
- 2 players
- Length
- 25–50 min
- Intensity
- Sweet
Free · No signup · Nothing you answer is saved
How do you play Forgiveness Questions?
Forgiveness questions ask couples to distinguish between what they genuinely let go of and what they simply stopped mentioning. They cover forgiveness within the relationship, toward family, and toward oneself — because how someone handles being wronged was usually set long before the relationship began.
How to play
- Both answer every card. This one is not safe as a one-way conversation.
- Do not defend. If something comes up about you, listen first.
- Take the ones about family and yourself as seriously as the ones about us.
- Six cards is a session.
- Finish on the last card.
Why couples love this game
The distinction between letting go and merely filing something away is one almost nobody has been asked to make. Several couples discover that a thing one of them thought was long resolved has simply been quietly parked — and that finding it is a relief rather than a problem.
Forgiveness in a relationship is rarely a single event. It is a hundred small decisions to stop bringing something up, some of which were genuine and some of which were just filing it somewhere quieter.
These questions ask which is which. What you actually let go of, what you only stopped mentioning, and what you are still holding that the other person does not know about.
It also covers forgiveness outside the relationship — parents, old friends, yourself — because most of how someone handles being wronged was set long before they met you.
Example questions
- What have you forgiven me for that I do not know about?
- What have you stopped mentioning without actually letting go of?
- What is something you are still carrying from before we met?
- Who have you not forgiven, and what would it take?
- What do you need from someone before you can let something go?
- Is an apology enough for you, or does something have to change?
The full game has 20 of these, shuffled every time you play.
Who this game is best for
- Long-term couples with some history
- After a difficult period has passed
- Anyone working through something with a parent
- Alongside counselling
Tips to make it better
- No defending. If something about you comes up, let the whole answer land.
- The questions about family and yourself are not filler. They explain the rest.
- Six cards. Trying to resolve everything in one night resolves nothing.
- End on the last card — it is the one that gives the evening a purpose.
Frequently asked questions
How do you know if you have really forgiven something?
A useful test is whether it still arrives in unrelated arguments. Things that are genuinely let go of stop being available as ammunition; things that were merely filed away do not.
What if something comes up that I did?
Listen to all of it before responding. The instinct to defend is what stops these conversations happening in the first place.
Why the questions about family?
Because most people's approach to forgiveness was formed at home long before this relationship, and understanding that explains a great deal about how your partner handles being hurt.