Green Flag or Red Flag
Find out what you each actually think is a dealbreaker.
- Players
- 2+ players
- Length
- 15–25 min
- Cost
- Free · no signup
- Long distance
- Works long distance
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Find out what you each actually think is a dealbreaker.
- Players
- 2+ players
- Length
- 15–25 min
- Intensity
- Sweet
Free · No signup · Nothing you answer is saved
How do you play Green Flag or Red Flag?
Green Flag or Red Flag is a couples game where a relationship behaviour appears on screen and both partners judge it simultaneously as acceptable or a dealbreaker. Agreements move on quickly; disagreements are the point, revealing differing standards without either partner having to accuse the other of anything.
How to play
- Read the behaviour on the card.
- Both call it — green flag or red flag — at the same time.
- Where you agree, move on immediately.
- Where you disagree, that is the conversation. Take two minutes.
- No changing your answer after you have heard your partner's.
Why couples love this game
It surfaces standards without accusations. Saying "it bothers me when you do X" is a confrontation; saying "I think that is a red flag" about a hypothetical person is not. Couples routinely discover a genuine difference in expectations here that would otherwise have taken a year and an argument.
Everyone talks about red flags and almost nobody agrees on what they are. One person's absolute dealbreaker is another person's Tuesday.
This game puts a behaviour on screen and you both call it — green flag or red. Most are obvious. About a third are not, and those are the ones worth the conversation.
It is genuinely useful early in a relationship, because it surfaces standards and expectations without anyone having to accuse anyone of anything.
Example questions
- They still text an ex occasionally, and they have told you about it.
- They check in with you before making weekend plans.
- They have no photos of anyone else on their phone. None at all.
- They go quiet for a day when they are upset instead of saying so.
- They are close friends with all of their exes.
- They tell you when something you did bothered them, the same day.
The full game has 24 of these, shuffled every time you play.
Who this game is best for
- New couples working out compatibility
- Couples who want the conversation without the confrontation
- Double dates — the disagreements get much better with an audience
- Video calls
Tips to make it better
- Call it simultaneously. The whole point is the unfiltered answer.
- Do not defend your own behaviour if a card resembles it. Judge the card.
- Disagreements are the game. Do not rush past them to finish the deck.
- It works well with another couple — four opinions produces much better arguments.
Frequently asked questions
What counts as a red flag in a relationship?
There is much less consensus than people assume, which is exactly why this game works. The behaviours most couples split on are the ones about privacy, friendships with exes, and how much time is reasonable to spend apart.
What if we disagree on a lot of them?
Normal, and better found now. Disagreeing about where a line sits is not the same as being incompatible — but not knowing where your partner puts it is a genuine problem.
Can you play this with friends?
Yes, and it is one of the better group games here. Four people arguing about whether something is a red flag beats two.