Couple Compatibility Test

How to play

1. 1Answer each card at the same time, without looking at each other.
2. 2Do not discuss until the end. Discussing mid-way contaminates the rest.
3. 3The score is calculated from how often you matched.
4. 4Go back through the mismatches afterwards. That is the useful part.
5. 5Do not argue about the number.

Why couples love this game

The number gets people to play; the mismatch list is what they take away. Every couple has three or four practical differences they have never explicitly discussed — how tidy is tidy, how much time apart is normal, whether money is shared — and this produces that list in ten minutes without a single argument.

A compatibility test that is honest about what it is: a structured way to compare how you each want to live, with a number at the end because numbers are fun.

The questions are about the things couples actually collide over — money, mess, sleep, socialising, how much time apart is normal. Not star signs.

The percentage is entertainment. The value is in the six or seven questions where you answer differently, which is a genuinely useful list to have.

Example choices

• Save it — or Spend it?
• Plan the holiday — or Book flights and figure it out?
• Tidy as you go — or Blitz it on Sunday?
• Early night — or Late night?
• Go out most weekends — or Stay in most weekends?
• Talk it out immediately — or Cool off first?

The full game has 24 of these, shuffled every time you play.

Who this game is best for

• —New couples
• —Couples about to move in together
• —Anyone curious about the number
• —Video calls

Tips to make it better

• ✦No discussing until the end. This is the only rule that matters.
• ✦Answer how you actually live, not how you would like to.
• ✦A low score is not a problem. Compatible does not mean identical.
• ✦The mismatch list is the output. Keep it, and revisit it if you move in together.

Frequently asked questions