Long Distance Questions

How to play

1. 1One of you opens the game — the other does not need the link.
2. 2Read a card out loud and both answer.
3. 3Video is nice but not required. This works on a normal phone call.
4. 4Do not do the whole deck. Six or seven is a good call.
5. 5Save the harder cards for a call when you both have time.

Why couples love this game

It solves the specific problem long-distance couples actually have, which is not distance but repetition. Calls collapse into the same status update because neither person has a better prompt to hand. Having twenty-two better prompts changes the texture of the whole week.

The hardest part of long distance is not missing each other. It is the call where you have both already said what you did, it has been eleven minutes, and neither of you wants to be the one to hang up.

This deck is for that call. The questions assume distance — they ask about the gap, the visits, the parts nobody says out loud — alongside plenty that have nothing to do with it at all.

One of you reads. Neither of you needs to share a screen. It works on a phone call with no video.

Example questions

• What is something about your day I would not have guessed?
• What is the hardest part of this week being apart?
• What do you miss that is not the obvious thing?
• What is something small you wish I could see right now?
• Describe the room you are in properly.
• What is the first thing you want to do when we are next in the same place?

The full game has 22 of these, shuffled every time you play.

Who this game is best for

• —The nightly call
• —Couples in different time zones
• —Deployments, study abroad, work postings
• —Any relationship with a countdown in it

Tips to make it better

• ✦Six or seven cards per call. Do not burn the deck in one night.
• ✦Both answer, even though only one of you can see the card.
• ✦The honest ones — "how are you actually finding this?" — deserve a call where you are not tired.
• ✦Works over text too, one card a day.

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